It is the 26th of September 2013. As I begin the
27th year of my life, I look back on the 26th. I speak
with complete honesty and conviction when I say I will never forget this year.
This day last year, I was at Bhaiya’s place. Recovering from
a cruel break up, I was full of shattered dreams and thought I had nothing to
look forward to in the coming year. That birthday was a much needed break and
time spent with family. And Ranjan bhaiya, Bernice di and Jonty came through
for me. Like they always did. Little did I know, that that birthday would be
the last of a season and would mark the beginning of a new era. Little did I
know, what lay ahead.
Following that I left for church camp. The intouch camp at
Bangalore. Three days of word, worship, fun, games, activities et al. It was a
time of intense nourishment. A time when I was built up, refreshed and
rejuvenated. A place where a lot of my
questions were answered. A place where I finally laid to rest all the ‘whys’
and ‘whens’ and ‘hows’ I was struggling with. A place where I was healed and
made whole.
And now, is when the life changing stuff begins.
It all began when one day while talking on the phone with
mama, she said, “why don’t you put up a profile on a matrimonial website?” And
all I said was, “let’s see”. After a lot of thought and talking to friends, I
thought “why not?!” and decided to give it a go. My only prayer and condition
before God was that whatever had to happen should happen within a month. And
so, it did.
I entered into the Indian marriage market or the great
shaadi bazzar. www.shaadi.com. Countless mails, notifications, smses, phone
calls later, I got a call. “Hey! This is Moloise Daniel. Is this a good time to
talk?.....” And so it began. He spoke to me. Spoke to dada. Spoke to me again.
At the end I asked for time. A month. Before I spoke to him again. And then he
said his now infamous dialogue, “Theek hai theek hai. No problem. Kahin bhi
jao. Ghoom firke to mere paas hi aana hai…!”
Then came November. Martha visited the ‘hot n happening’
Coimbatore. Or should I say Coimbatore got visited by the ‘hot n happening’
Martha. Trips. Food. Fun. Ooty. Kerela. And some thousands of rupees later, we
completed the best sisterhood trip ever.
Then on November 17th, I called him. Lets meet.
And so we did. December 1st, 2012. Coimbatore.
And. I. said. YES!!!!
To cut a looooong mushy very romantic story short, we got
engaged. Ludhiana. January 11th, 2013.
Oh oh before that. My best friend’s wedding. Shyla Singh
became Shyla Thomas Jacob. If not the wedding of the century, it was the
wedding of a decade. A decade of love and friendship.
Then came 2013. Honestly the first six months were a blur.
And truthfully, not a very happy blur. I was far away from family. From
friends. From my love. I was working two
jobs. Trying to complete my bond and get what I was due. Single handedly
planning and executing a wedding. And most importantly, fighting for that very
wedding to take place.
Finally. The big day arrived. The biggest day in a girl’s
life. The biggest day in my life. June 1st, 2013.
It was beautiful. God had worked it out to every small
detail. I was seeing chacha chachi and my firangi cousins after ages. I was
surrounded by friends and family. The weather was beautiful. The landscape
breathtaking. And the man perfect. The moment I most clearly remember was
walking out of my changing room. I was n a beautiful white gown. The most
beautiful I would ever look in my life. And suddenly, there was this wave of
sadness. Sorrow, that clenched my heart. Tears in my eyes. It was the hardest
thing I ever had had to do in my life. The toughest choice I ever had had to
make. I was immensely happy. But also immensely sad.
Lydia Abraham became Lydia Abraham Moloise. Mrs. Lydia
Abraham Moloise.
After that was more activity, honeymooning in kerela. Then
we had to split up for a while when Moloise left for Dubai to resign. Then he
came back and we began the process of job/house hunting. We moved into our
first house, began setting up while I slowly began settling into my new role of
wife.
And so here I am. A year later.
What does this year bring?
I am studying for my entrance into specialty courses and
will be writing exams end of this year. Beyond that, who knows?!! Well… God
does. And I am content not knowing. I am content. My life is full. And I am
happier than I have been in years.
And to you, thank you. THANK YOU. Thank you for reading
this. Thank you for the part you’ve played in my life. Thank you for being there
for me this year. Thank you for everything.
I love you.
God bless.
Lydia